Tag: Internet Law

  • ChatGPT: What’s in the Fine Print

    Everyone seems to be going crazy about ChatGPT – using it to write everything from social media posts to books, worry about if kids are using it to cheat at school, and wondering if this is our new robot overlord that will ultimately replace all professional writers.

    Ok, maybe I’m exaggerating with that last one.

    But how many people have read the terms of service and its privacy policy?

    I have.  😉

    Photo by Barney Moss (Creative Commons)

    OpenAI is Winning the Internet

    Did you know that the same company that created ChatGPT also created DALL-E? I’m not usually one who makes predictions, but so far, OpenAI is winning this year. They are creating the standard against which other AI will be compared.

    As long as they don’t fuck it up, OpenAI is going to kick ass this year.

    OpenAI’s terms and privacy policy are the same for all its services, including ChatGPT and DALL-E, so plan accordingly.

    What Can’t You Make with ChatGPT

    OpenAI has a policy that you can’t use its services to create content related to:

    • Political campaigns
    • Adult content
    • Spam
    • Hateful content
    • Content that incites violence
    • Uses that may cause social harm

    Hat tip to OpenAI for acting with integrity from the start. I understand why it doesn’t want to be connected with these activities. Use AI for good not evil.

    Yes, some of my clients are porn companies. I see nothing wrong with consenting adults creating adult content. (Yes, that means sometimes I get paid to look at porn.) However, I understand why OpenAI made a blanket rule against using AI to make adult content because you know some sicko will use it to try to make virtual kiddie porn. It’s just easier to prohibit the entire category.

    Photo by James Lee (Creative Commons)

    You Can’t Claim You Made the AI-Generated Content

    The terms of services clear say that when you use OpenAI’s services, you cannot “represent that output from the Services was human-generated when it is not.”

    They obviously wanted to get ahead of suspected problems like students using ChatGPT to do their homework. That also means if you’re a marketing agency, you can’t claim the content created by ChatGPT was made by your staff.

    Previously, I predicted that “handcrafted artisanal content” would become a real label in content marketing. I think this could be the beginning of it.

    Photo by Torley (Creative Commons)

    You Own the IP – or Do You?

    The terms say “OpenAI hereby assigns to you all its right, title and interest in and to Output.” This might make you think that you’ll own the copyright in everything ChatGPT creates for you.

    But that’s not true.

    It’s well-established that copyright only exist in works created by humans. The output from AI-software can be copyrightable in only two situations:

    1. The software code was written by a human and it original enough to be by copyright. If this is true, then the output would be a derivative work of the software code.
    2. What you input into the software was protected by copyright, and therefore, the output is a derivative work of the input. If the input was something you owned the copyright in, you don’t need OpenAI’s assignment to own the rights in the output.

    However, if the input is merely facts or ideas (no copyright) and there’s no copyright in the software code, there’s no copyright in the output. OpenAI can assign you the rights in the output, but those rights won’t include copyright.

    Photo by Levork (Creative Commons)

    Warning: Two Users May Get the Same Output

    Heads up: the OpenAI’s terms say its “Services may generate the same or similar output for OpenAI or a third party.”

    So, there’s a risk that two users could get the same output from ChatGPT, think they own the copyright in it, and then accuse each other of copyright infringement when neither one owned a copyright in the output to begin with.

    That’s also another strike against ChatGPT – if you ask it to create the ordinary, the output isn’t likely to differentiate your brand from your competition.

    And by the way, the terms also say that there’s no guarantee that the output from their software doesn’t infringe on another’s rights. (If you outsource your content creation to a third party, double check your contracts to make sure that if you’re accused of wrongdoing for what they created, that they’ll be responsible for your damages and attorneys’ fees.)

    OpenAI Can Use Your Content Too

    Did you also notice that the terms say OpenAI may get the same output as what it creates for you?

    They also say that OpenAI can use your input and output from its software to develop and improve its services.  

    Photo by Lorie Shaull (Creative Commons)

    Don’t be a Dick to OpenAI

    They already thought of this – you’re not allowed to create multiple accounts to take advantage of their free tier of services.

    If you want more than that, pay for it.

    Additionally, you’re not allowed to use their services in any way that infringes, misappropriates, or violates anyone’s rights.  

    Photo by Steve Spezz (Creative Commons)

    You Have to Protect OpenAI

    Just I said to double check your contract with your third-party creators, the same verbiage is in the OpenAI terms. You have to indemnify OpenAI against any “claims, losses, and expenses (including attorneys’ fees) arising from” your use of their services.

    This is actually a standard term I include in a lot of my clients’ contracts.

    Photo by Steven Depolo (Creative Commons)

    Cool Points to OpenAI

    Whenever you read a contract (terms of service are a contract), remember that whichever side wrote it, did so to protect their interests, not the other guy.

    However, if you are constrained to take OpenAI to arbitration to resolve a dispute, but you can’t pay your half of the arbitration fees, “OpenAI will pay them for you.”

    That’s a classy move. In most terms of service, including the ones I write for clients, if you can’t pay your half of the arbitration fees, you’re screwed and you have no other recourse.

    The terms also say, “OpenAI will not seek its attorneys’ fees and costs in arbitration unless the arbitrator determines that your claim is frivolous.”

    In many contract disputes, it’s a given that the winner will ask for attorneys’ fees and costs. That’s often one of the upsides to bringing a breach of contract claim.

    Photo by DonkeyHotey (Creative Commons)

    What’s OpenAI Doing with Your Personal Info?

    I’m not sure what OpenAI is doing with my personal information, but they can use it for research and make it generally available. That’s what their privacy policy says.

    This is separate from their policy about how they use aggregate information, which they can also use for research.

    OpenAI’s privacy policy also says, “We do not and will not sell your Personal Information. (CA users).” I don’t know if this means that the personal information of people who aren’t California users might be sold, of if this is a policy that applies to everyone, but was included to comply with the California privacy law.

    As always, buyer beware. If you’re not paying for a product, there’s a good chance you are the product.

  • Using Movie Clips in your YouTube Videos

    Wedding Crashers by Kurt Bauschardt from Flickr (Creative Commons license)

    Some people incorporate clips from mainstream movies into their YouTube videos. Depending on the circumstances, it may or may not be legal.

    Movie Studio’s Rights
    Whoever owns the copyright in the movie has the exclusive right to control where the work can be copied, distributed, displayed, performed, and what derivative works can be made from it. This applies to the whole film and clips of it. The copyright owner is also the only one who can come after someone for copyright infringement. So, if they don’t know or don’t care about what another person is doing with their work, that person will never get in trouble.

    What about Fair Use?
    The powers that wrote the Copyright Act understood that existing artwork inspire other artists to create new works. To that effect, they created the fair use provision of the copyright law (17 U.S.C. § 107 if you want to look it up).

    The fair use law allows a person to use another’s work for the purpose of criticism, commentary, research, and teaching – often in ways that thoughtfully add to the existing work. The law provides four factors that the court may consider in determining whether a use is copyright infringement or fair use (which I turned into the handy mnemonic device PAIN), but these are merely points of consideration.

    The fair use factors are not a mathematical equation to use to get a definite answer. The only way to know for certain if a use qualifies as fair use would be if there’s a lawsuit and the court makes a ruling on the matter. However, if the use of another’s work is transformative and doesn’t become a substitute for the original work in the market, there’s a good chance it’s fair use.

    One way to avoid the issue about whether using a clip is copyright infringement or fair use, would be to get permission to use the clip by purchasing a license. Without this permission, there’s a risk that the copyright owner will order your video to be removed until the offending clip is removed.

    Using a Movie Clip – Good Idea or Bad Idea?
    If a client asked me about using a movie clip for a purpose other than criticism, commentary, as a teaching demonstrative, or an original compilation with other works, I’d challenge them to explain why they want to use that clip and what value it adds to their work. I’d also encourage them to at least do their homework on the copyright owner to see if they have a track record of going after people who use clips of their work without permission.

    Ultimately, I respect my clients’ choices, but I try to help them make informed decisions about the risk they’re accepting when they use another’s work. Copyright and fair use situations are always complicated and always depend on the specific circumstances. If you want to connect with me and hear more thoughts about copyright, you can contact me directly or connect with me on TwitterFacebookYouTube, or LinkedIn. You can also get access to more exclusive content that is available only to people on my mailing list, by subscribing here.

  • What’s Up with YouTube Pulling Ads from Videos?

    Speak No Evil by Robert Young from Flickr (Creative Commons License)
    Speak No Evil by Robert Young from Flickr (Creative Commons License)

    In the last week, several people have posted that YouTube pulled the ads from their videos because their content wasn’t “advertiser-friendly.”

    What’s Advertiser-Friendly Content?
    According to YouTube policies, ads can only be run on content that’s all-ages appropriate. “It has little to no inappropriate or mature content in the video stream, thumbnail, or metadata (such as in the video title). If the video does contain inappropriate content, the context is usually newsworthy or comedic and the creator’s intent is to inform or entertain (not offend or shock).”

    According to YouTube, you can’t run ads against content that contains the following:

    • Sexually suggestive content;
    • Violence
    • Profanity or vulgar language
    • Harassment
    • Promotion of drugs
    • Sensitive subjects – including, war, political conflicts, natural disasters, and tragedies

    If a user repeatedly posts videos that violate this policy, YouTube may suspend monetization on your whole channel. This could be problematic for content creators who make a living in part from their YouTube channel(s).

    Their Site, Their Rules
    Reading the YouTube rules, it’s ok to create and post content that violates some of its advertiser-friendly guidelines, but not make money from it.

    And don’t even think about trying to argue that YouTube is violating your First Amendment right to free speech. It’s their site so they make the rules. They’re not stopping you from creating and publishing content on your own forum, just setting the rules for their platform.

    Compare this to a shopping mall. They control who can sell wares and what behavior is appropriate. If you break the rules – by screaming or walking a body bag through the food court (not that I’ve done that) – you can be asked to leave or even banned for a period of time. Likewise, if you scream obscenities on the street, the police might be called and you could get a ticket for disturbing the peace.

    So, What’s Changed?
    It appears that not much has changed on YouTube. The policy regarding advertiser-friendly content hasn’t changed, but rather how it’s enforced. Before, if a video violated this rule, they would merely turn off the monetization feature, and you may not notice the difference unless you checked your Video Manager. Now, YouTube is sending an email notice when they turn off monetization.

    I went back and reviewed the law firm’s YouTube channel. I run ads on most videos, but I haven’t made a cent from YouTube. There’s only one video on which monetization was turned off. My other videos where I may occasionally swear and/or mention sexual content like “revenge porn” are still monetized. (Not that I expect to make money from my videos, but you never know.)

    If you have an internet-based business that relies on another platform to make money, be sure you read the site’s terms of service before you design your business model around it. (Remember, there’s a good chance the site can change the rules at any time.) If you want to talk more about internet or social media law, you can contact me directly or connect with me on TwitterFacebookYouTube, or LinkedIn. You can also get access to more exclusive content that is available only to people on my mailing list, by subscribing here.

  • Copyright Protection – Ideas vs Expression

    Golden Gate Bridge by Julian Fong from Flickr (Creative Commons License)
    Golden Gate Bridge by Julian Fong from Flickr (Creative Commons License)

    A common mistake among professional creatives and amateur is understanding the scope of copyright protection, In the U.S., when you have a copyright, you have protection for your original expression, not the ideas contained within your work.

    What Does Copyright Protect
    Copyright applies when you have an “original work of authorship” that is “fixed in a tangible medium.” When you have a copyright, you can prevent others from using or claiming your work without permission, but it doesn’t give you a monopoly over the ideas contained within a work.

    The image above is a photograph of the Golden Gate Bridge by Julian Fong. By taking this photo, he has the copyright in the image; however, he can’t stop others from taking picture of the bridge. If I went to San Francisco and determined where he was standing, I could take a photo that is nearly identical to his, but that is not a violation of his copyright. He can only stop me from claiming his work as my own or using his work without his permission. He can’t stop me from creating my own picture. His rights only extend to his exact expression, not the idea of capturing an image of this bridge on a sunny day.

    The same rules that apply to images also apply to written material. This is why multiple people can write about the same topic and even express similar sentiments without risk of violating the other’s copyright rights. As long as one writer is not deliberating copying the other’s work word-for-word and claiming it as their own, it’s possible for two people to create similar works without violating the other’s rights. It is permissible under the concept of fair use to quote another writer and provide your own thoughts and others’ perspectives about the issue.

    What Is Not Protected
    Copyright only protects original expression, it does not protect facts, ideas, methods, titles, names, short phrases, or recipes. Copyright can protect and original arrangement of facts, but not when it’s an unoriginal arrangement. That’s why a cookbook may be protected by copyright (original arrangement of recipes and images) but a phonebook is not.

    I regularly receive questions from people about what is the scope of copyright protection and whether contributing to a project (such as being the subject of a photo) gives them rights in the resulting product. Copyright, like many areas of law, has few definite answers. Each situation must be evaluated based on its merits.

    If you want to talk with me about copyright law and protecting your rights, you can contact me directly or connect with me on TwitterFacebookYouTube, or LinkedIn. You can also get access to more exclusive content, entrepreneurial tips, and rants that are available only to people on my mailing list, by subscribing here.

  • Planning for the Digital Afterlife

    Candlelight Vigil 6 by B. W. Townsend from Flickr (Creative Commons License)
    Candlelight Vigil 6 by B. W. Townsend from Flickr (Creative Commons License)

    Your accounts on websites and social media platforms, website domains, and all the content you post are your property, and therefore part of your estate.  When you pass away, your estate plan determines who will inherit your possession, including your property online. When you write your will, make sure it includes information about who will own your online content when you die.

    Copyright Ownership
    Under the U.S. Copyright Act, you are the copyright owner in any original works you create the moment they are “fixed” in any tangible medium (including digital files). This includes the photos and videos that you take post on social media and the content you create and post on your websites. For any individual, the copyright in each work does not expire until 70 years after you die. It’s important to designate who will be the copyright owner for your content.

    Maintain Accounts
    You may have accounts that require payment to maintain them – such as your web domains. Your accounts could be disabled or delete if they are not maintained, meaning the content could be lost if someone doesn’t continue to pay your domain, hosting, and account fees. If you want a website to live on after you pass away, include instructions and money for doing so.

    For your other social media accounts, check with each site’s terms of service about what happens to an account when a user passes away. There may be processes in place to transition your account into a memorial page and/or transfer control to your loved ones.

    Settling your Online Affairs
    When you create an estate plan, you designate an executor or personal representative for your estate who is responsible for settling your affairs. Consider designating a representative to oversee you online affairs. Provide a list of your online property and instructions regarding what should happen to it. You may also want to give this person instructions regarding the files on your computer, in your phone, or in the cloud.

    You may select one person as your regular personal representative and a tech savvy friend to address your online affairs. Your online executor may need access to your passwords to your computer, phone, and for each account. (This is when using a password storage system like LastPass is handy.) Your online executor is also the best person to clear your browser history, delete images from your machine, and possibly remove items from your home that you don’t want your family to see.

    Dying Without a Will
    If you die without an estate plan (aka die intestate), you’ll have no say over who inherits what from your estate. The court will appoint a personal representative and the laws of your state will determine who inherits your estate. In Arizona, if you die without a will, your spouse inherits your estate. If you don’t have a spouse, your children inherit your estate. If you don’t have a spouse or children, your parents inherit if they are living, otherwise your property goes to your then-living siblings. If you are an entrepreneur, you should also be aware of what happens to your LLC when you die.

    If you want to talk with me about who owns your online content now and in the afterlife, you can contact me directly or connect with me on TwitterFacebookYouTube, or LinkedIn. You can also get access to more exclusive content, entrepreneurial tips, and rants that are available only to people on my mailing list, by subscribing here.

  • Using Others’ Content – Legal Dos & Don’ts

    Cut Copy Paste by Arthit Suriyawongkul from Flickr (Creative Commons License)
    Cut Copy Paste by Arthit Suriyawongkul from Flickr (Creative Commons License)

    I’ve received a lot of questions lately about how and when it is permissible to use other’s content without committing copyright infringement. This aspect of the copyright law is called fair use, and it’s a murky gray area. Each situation needs to be evaluated based on its merits as there few black-and-white rules regarding the legal use of others’ content.

    Sharing a Post
    If you like a post, you may want to share it with others. The legal way to do this is share a link to the original post with your audience. Sharing a link is the digital equivalent of pointing at something. It doesn’t create a copy of it. You will likely be accused of copyright infringement if you copy/paste the content from the original site to your website. Even if you have good intentions, you’re still interfering with the copyright holder’s right to control where their work is copied and distributed.

    If you want to share a copy of a post, ask for permission. I get 2-3 requests a year from people who want to print and share copies of a post I wrote for training purposes or as part of a seminar. I’ve always allowed this as long as they include an attribution so the audience knows where it came from.

    Commenting on a Post
    If you want to quote someone in a post and add your own commentary to their thoughts, that is generally permissible. This is one of the things fair use is meant to protect. It’s best to quote the original post, provide an attribution and a link to the site, and then add your thoughts about it. By adding commentary, you’re more likely to be contributing to the conversation rather than committing copyright infringement.

    One of the questions I was recently asked was whether they could write about the same topic as someone else. There’s no copyright protection for facts or ideas, so as long as you’re not copying someone’s working and claiming it as your own, you can write about the ideas as another writer, even without as attribution – unless you quote them.

    Using an Image
    This was an interesting question – someone asked when they write a post that comments on another person’s work, can they use the image from the original article. This raises a “red flag” for me because depending on the circumstances, it could be permissible or copyright infringement. If the article is about the image itself, then using the image is likely protected by fair use.

    Otherwise using the photo from another’s post may be copyright infringement, especially if readers are seeking the original post and accepting yours as a substitute. I could see readers being confused because the image on the two posts are identical. If the image on the original post is not as essential aspect of the story, I recommend using a different image. I usually get my images from Creative Commons that come with the license to modify and commercialize the original.

    Copyright and fair use are complicated issues that permeate the blogosphere. Before using another’s content, consider whether what you’re doing is likely to be legal and whether it might be best to request permission before using another’s content. If you have any question regarding using others’ content and fair use, please contact me directly or connect with me on TwitterFacebookYouTube, or LinkedIn. If you want access to my exclusive content that’s shared only with my mailing list, please subscribe to the firm’s newsletter.

  • What’s the Answer to Revenge Porn?

    What The . . . ? by Reinis Traidas from Flickr (Creative Commons License)
    What The . . . ? by Reinis Traidas from Flickr (Creative Commons License)

    I’m frustrated.

    I regularly review the terms people search for and end up on this site. Almost every day people are asking questions about how they can determine if their intimate photos and videos have been posted online or what they should do if a current or ex-partner is threatening to post their intimate photos.

    Now, I have no issue with consenting adults creating photos or videos in the privacy of their bedroom or wherever they have sexy time. I have a huge issue when it comes to people acting irresponsibly with these media files. And the problem doesn’t appear to be getting better.

    My rule of thumb is people shouldn’t create intimate photos or videos unless they are certain that everyone involved is responsible and respectful enough not to share them with anyone. If you know you might be tempted to post these file or show them to your friends, don’t have them on your phone, delete them if you have them, or better yet – don’t create them.

    I suspect a lot of people feel embarrassed when they learn that their naked image is online or someone is threatening to post it, so they try to deal with it quietly. These bad actors get to be so abusive, in part, because they’re doing it in the shadows behind a computer screen. They rely on their victim silence. The best response may be to bring this person into the light. If you are a victim in this type of situation, call the police. You may be the victim of revenge porn, harassment, or extortion. You may also want to talk to a lawyer because you might have a civil case as well.

    Depending on your circumstances, your most effective course of action may be to turn to the court of public opinion by calling this bad actor out for their abusive and disrespectful deeds.

    Likewise, if your friend offers to show you the intimate photos or videos they created with their partner, forcefully decline. Tell your friend they’re a disrespectful dick for even considering sharing these. This person is a jerk who shouldn’t be dating anyone or engaging in any activities that might lead to procreation. The only exception to this advice is if your friend offers to hand you their phone to look at the images. The good buddy response would be to take their phone and delete the images – save them from themselves.

    In thinking about these situations, one of the reasons why I’m so frustrated is because I feel powerless to stop this misbehavior. The answer to this problem may lie in the way we teach tweens and tweens about using their phones. Just like we teach kids to say “please” and “thank you,” they need to be taught that it’s unacceptable to create and share content designed to humiliate and disrespect others.

    If you suspect that you are the victim of revenge porn threatened with revenge porn, please know that you don’t have to deal with this situation alone. Please call the police, your local domestic violence resource center, and/or a lawyer. If you have any questions about revenge porn or any other questions about social media harassment, you can contact me directly or connect with me on TwitterFacebookYouTube, or LinkedIn.

  • YouTube Reinstated my Video

    Webtreats - 272 YouTube Icons Promo Pack by webtreats from Flickr (Creative Commons License)
    Webtreats – 272 YouTube Icons Promo Pack by webtreats from Flickr (Creative Commons License)

    Last month, YouTube pulled one of my videos within hours of it being released. My videos are typically uploaded in advanced and released early every Wednesday morning. That was the strangest message to wake up to.

    The weird thing was that the videos on this challenge are mostly Q&A for legal questions about business, intellectual property, and internet law. Occasionally, I talk about more risqué topics like revenge porn and legal issues related to posting or sharing intimate photos and videos, but this video was about publicity rights. (The question I received was poorly phrased. As written it sounded like he/she could have been asking about human trafficking, but I’m pretty sure they were asking about the right of publicity.)

    Since life is blog material, instead of posting the video that day, I posted about how YouTube pulled my video for allegedly violating their Community Guidelines. I do not know if someone reported my video as offensive or if an automatic process within YouTube detected suspicious verbiage and removed it automatically.

    Initially, I was going to let it go, thinking “Their site, their rules;” but a friend suggested I appeal the decision. (I wish I could remember who suggested this! Thank you!) I went into the firm’s YouTube channel and submitted an appeal with a short note explaining that the purpose of the video was a discussion of publicity rights, not an endorsement of human trafficking. About a day later, I received the following response:

    Thank you for submitting your video appeal to YouTube. After further review, we’ve determined that your video doesn’t violate our Community Guidelines. Your video has been reinstated and your account is in good standing.

    In case you missed it, here’s the video that led to this predicament:

    I’m glad this situation has a happy ending. The lesson I learned from all of this is that it’s worth it to appeal YouTube’s decision if you think a video was pulled in error. If you have any questions about a YouTube video or any other questions about social media law, you can contact me directly or connect with me on TwitterFacebookYouTube, or LinkedIn.

  • Fair Use Victory!

    Bambi vs. Godzilla (211/365) by JD Hancock from Flickr (Creative Commons License)
    Bambi vs. Godzilla (211/365) by JD Hancock from Flickr (Creative Commons License)

    The Ninth Circuit of the Federal Court handed down an important ruling regarding fair use this week. In Lenz v. Universal, aka the “Dancing Baby” case was about copyright, DMCA takedown notices, and fair use. The Electronic Frontier Foundation (EFF) sued Universal Music Publishing Group after Universal sent a Digital Millennium Copyright Act (DMCA) takedown notice when a mother uploaded a 29-second video of her baby dancing to a Prince song.

    The key element of this court ruling is that the court declared that “copyright holders must consider fair use before sending a [DMCA] takedown notice.” Prior to this case, fair use was regarded as an “affirmative defense.” If you’ve seen my YouTube videos, you have seen this one where I declare, “Fair use is a defense, not a permission slip.” This court said that’s not the case, but rather that fair use is authorized by the Federal Copyright Act. There is no copyright infringement if your use of another’s copyright-protected work is permitted by fair use.

    If you’re interested in learning more about fair use, I wrote a post that includes a mnemonic device for the fair use factors for a panel I did at Phoenix Comicon on fair use and fan art/fiction.

    There are two downsides to the case (at least for now):

    1. Although the court said that copyright holders must consider fair use before sending a DMCA takedown notice, they only have to have subjective good faith belief that the use of the copyrighted work is illegal, even if this belief is objectively unreasonable.
    2. This ruling only applies to the Ninth Circuit. The Ninth Circuit is comprised of Arizona, California, and most of the western United States. However, this ruling is not binding on the other ten Circuit Courts, but they can take it under advisement in future cases.

    This case is a step in the right direction and will hopefully lead to fewer abuses of the DMCA. You can read the EFF’s full report about the case here.

    Footnote: This case took eight years to reach this ruling. Sometimes pursuing a lawsuit is the right decision, but you have to be prepared to be in it for the long haul.

    How the copyright laws apply to the internet is a legal issue that is constantly developing. If you need a resource about how the law applies to social media, please check out The Legal Side of Blogging: How Not to get Sued, Fired, Arrested, or Killed. If you want to chat with me about a specific question related to copyright or internet law, you can contact me directly or connect with me on TwitterFacebookYouTube, or LinkedIn.

  • Who’s Talking to your Kids Online?

    Hacker by Zodman from Flickr (Creative Commons License)
    Hacker by Zodman from Flickr (Creative Commons License)

    Did you see this social media experiment by Coby Persin where he pretends to be a 15 year-old boy? He approached a handful of 12-14 year-old girls online and invited them to meet in person. In each situation the parents were in on the act and all of them were convinced that their daughter’s wouldn’t accept the invitation, but each girl did – meeting him at a park, inviting him to their house, and getting into his van.

    This video was instantaneously popular when it came and it’s had millions of hits, but I waited until now to talk about it, because this isn’t a one-and-done topic. This is a conversation parents need to be having with their kids on an ongoing basis about talking to people online and crossing the line from online interaction to meeting in the real world.

    I have always recommended that parents be on the same social media platforms as their kids so they can monitor what they’re children are doing online. Parents should also know the passwords for their kids’ phones so they can check their text messages and photos. (And I’m an advocate of teens having some privacy, but it shouldn’t be a free-for-all.) After seeing this video, I have a few more suggestions for parents to protect their kids online.

    1. Be Aware of Who your Kids are Talking to Online.
    Just like you have at least a passing familiarity about who your kid knows at school and in their extracurricular activities, you should talk with your kids about who they talk to online and via text messages. Know who is an influence in their lives. If they mention someone new or become more secretive, that should give you a reason to probe deeper into what’s going on. It could be standard teenage rebellion, but it could be a reason for concern.

    2.  Remind your Kids: “Don’t Befriend Strangers Online.”
    I have a personal rule – if you’re not my friend in real life, you don’t get to be my “friend” on Facebook. Anyone can message me (because I use social media professionally) but that’s where I draw the line. I recommend the same rule for kids. The fact that someone looks pretty or appears to be a friend of a friend is not a good enough reason to have an ongoing connection. They may have a conversation because they’re fans of the same thing or in a Facebook group, but that shouldn’t be enough to allow that person more than surface access to you.

    3.  Teach your Kids: “People Present an Altered Self Online.”  
    I believe that most people are good and have good intentions; however, when it comes to the internet, everybody lies. Some people present their best self while others blatantly present a false self. Think of everyone online as a persona more than a person – at best you’re only seeing one side of them. Just like you shouldn’t compare your body to airbrushed fashion models, don’t compare yourself to someone’s posts online.

    Keep the conversation about online safety going. Show your kids Coby Persin’s video and TV programs like To Catch a Predator and talk about the fact that not everyone is what they appear to be in real life compared to what they say online. Every teenager should read and own The Gift of Fear by security expert Gavin de Becker before they get their driver’s license. (I am not a paid spokesperson for Gavin de Becker. I’m just a fan of his work.)

    Internet safety is a complicated topic.  If you want to chat with me more, you can contact me directly or connect with me on TwitterFacebookYouTube, or LinkedIn.